It’s OK to make wrong decisions

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It’s ok to make wrong decisions. As the fear of making wrong choices, often freezes us and it leaves us stagnant in life. Action is always better than inaction.

Whenever making a decision, weigh the pros and cons. Sleep over it. Think of the consequences and always remember that “Every action-choice-decision, has a ripple effect in your life and the environment you live in.” So be careful, but don’t be scared!!

There are times, we make wrong choices. We invest in a wrong career, fall in love with the wrong person, make small mistakes that change the route of our lives. It’s not the end of your story. Be strong, face the consequences of your decisions and make amends. Not for the world, but for yourself and the people who were affected by the decisions.

We need to learn to take decisions from a young age. From small things, like what we want to eat, what hobby class do we enroll in, how do we want to spend the savings to what we want to do in holidays. When we start taking decisions, our brains are wired to think and make choices. This will help us, at the pedestal when we need to important decisions. Start early and enjoy the ripple effect….

Mind your wings

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Unconditional love

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It’s rare, elusive and sparse!

Think of the people, you love the MOST

Can you love and accept them, if their flaws are magnified

Would you travel the world, to spend one day with them

Would you stick to them, when the world ostracizes them

Can you love them the same, when they doubt your love

Can you love them the same, when they leave your nest

Maybe you can. Maybe you can’t

BUT

When you find someone who loves you unconditionally

It changes you, forever

It heals your deepest wounds

It brings out the best in you

It is the best metamorphosis that can happen to you!

It’s a bliss, if another person loves you unconditionally

And magical, if you can offer it to you ;

And everyone around you.

Mind your wings

 

When Life becomes “A means to an end”

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There are so many things we read, learn or experience, but we’re unable to understand them fully. Then, when we keep hitting the hammer on the same spot.. BAMMMM, our head is hit with understanding that liberates the heart!!

We all talk about living in the present, cutting the past and shutting the future. But, are we even making an effort to do it?

In School-colleges, our efforts are concentrated on the graduation day. We need that excellent score and a few awards to decorate our resume. But, did we enjoy the whole process? Did we live each day as it is, or were we too bothered by, “I ll be ecstatic on that  day, when I score X and win Y..” And similarly, the routine contines with the perfect job, soulmate, dream home  so on and so forth.

Basically, we spend our today working incessantly for a future goal. Why is happiness always work-in-progress? Planning, having goals, is awesome. But, don’t let that stop you from living today. Today-This moment is all we have. Just make the best out of it! Be happy now! Life may throw challenges, unexpected twists; But we need to tune ourself that we can make the best out of every-living-day.

I think, we all know this. It’s just that one day it hits you so hard, that you see the need for detachment from the outcomes. You realize that making today beautiful is the only assurance you can make to your heart and soul. 

Today is not a “means” to an “end” in the future. Live now. Do what makes your heart sing today. Let’s make a better today . So simple, yet so difficult…

Mind your wings

 

When emotions dissolve your clarity

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Emotions are constantly changing, but don’t let it destroy your peace of mind! Easier said than done. There are so many times in life, our emotions muddy the clear waters. We could have dealt with a situation with calmness and clarity. But, the tempestuous emotions can either empower you or mislead you.

Emotions are the driving force behind our actions and reasoning. The way you feel is the way you describe a certain event or person. And so many times, when we need to see a situation clearly, but our involvement, our emotions play havoc with our reasoning. And, when we finally disconnect from the situation, we are able to see everything so clearly! It makes us wonder, why couldn’t we understand something so simple and evident…

That’s where “Detachment” comes into the picture. Detachment does not mean, we cease to care. It means we learn to love, live, care, while disconnecting from the results or consequences of the situation.  Sometimes when our emotions overwhelm us, it’s time to take a break!

Mind your wings

When failures inspire you..

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The first time I failed, I was disappointed

The next time, it was heart-wrenching

When it happened again, I lost faith in  everything….

But, it’s upto us, to get back on our feet.

I am up and more alive than ever!!

Failures… I don’t know them.

What happened was a lesson and it kick started my transition.

Today I’m careful, but not scared

I give my best and then leave it in the hands of that omnipotent power

The past failures have made me more judicious and compassionate

Some may still doubt me, but I’ve never been more clear.

Neither am I reckless, nor am I a prude.

Finally, I see the importance of balance in life.. 🙂 

Mind your wings

Our tolerance for honesty…

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“Honesty is the best policy”

We are taught this from childhood. We would reiterate it anytime, anywhere. But how tolerant are we towards truth and honesty.

We live in times where are there is a lot of space for grey.  Besides, what is acceptable to one group of people, maybe intolerable to the others. But at the same time, there are people who condone dishonesty, but cannot bear the truth. And it’s true, some pay a dear price for honesty.

When a Godman’s veil is exposed, the whistleblowers are punished. When a woman stands for her truth and dignity, she is given malicious labels. When a man stands by the honest woman, his motives are questioned. Sometimes, this really makes me wonder, “Why are we becoming an intolerant society.”

Of Course, there is white lies. But I am talking about the malicious lies, i.e. false stories told with the intent of hurting someone or being exonerated for one’s misconduct.

There are times we all hide things, there are times we sugar coat them, there are times we disguise the lies. We all do it. Some more than the others. And, we all have perfect reasons to support the need for that lies. 

Let’s forget about national scandals/issues and talk about us. Isn’t it ironic, there are times when honesty wins you respect and there are times you are crucified for the same. There are big lies and small lies (btw, who decides the magnitude of the lie?), acceptable and unacceptable. 

Irrespective of all, Honesty and truth keeps the social and moral structure in place. It is necessary. Without this, there would be chaos in all our lives. So let’s keep teaching and following that honesty is the best policy. Along with this, let’s increase our tolerance towards honesty. 

“When you lie to someone, you rob them of their power to take a decision.”

Mind your wings

When you are Crashing….

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I absolutely love Anthony Robbin’s metaphor of the crashing car. When driving a race car, your focus is immaculate. One moment of distraction and THUD! Whereas sometimes your car skids and you are at a choice point. You either look towards the wall, where you might crash or you focus on the direction where you want to go. 

Similarly, in life we always need to focus on where we want to go instead of what we fear. But, often we are so focused on the problem that we forget to look for the solution instead. And there are times, when we are looking at the solution, but we are unable to comprehend it. In this case, look around, turn it upside down, twist and turn, change your perception and WHOOSH, the solution hits you like a fresh gust of wind. 

Focus and work towards your goal. On the other hand, be flexible with the ways that you can reach your goal. And, when you are skidding; look at where you want to be and there is a greater possibility you’ll be one step closer to your goal. But, without any groundwork the race car goes crashing. Similarly, when you set a goal but lose your focus, you might get lost. Whereas focus gives you clarity and speeds your success.

A mind out of control will play games with you. On the other hand, when you train your mind to FOCUS-DECLUTTER, it is the greatest bane of your life. Finally, what you focus on becomes your reality. 

Mind your wings