Walk away…

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When you are not being treated well; Walk away

When your respect is being tampered on; Walk away

It may hurt for a while,

But, short term pain is better than life time misery

Knowing when to walk away is: Wisdom

 Being able to do it is: Courage

And doing it with dignity: is a BLISS

The road maybe unknown or rocky ahead

But, you can count on your steady footsteps

You may miss the security of familiarity

But, when walking away is a Bliss

Having faith in yourself is the first step when walking away!

Mind your wings

 

That Leap of Faith

 

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“Sometimes the only transportation you have, is the leap of faith!”

So often we hear, about people taking the leap of faith. It’s not the same as being impulsive. Taking that leap of faith includes, noticing the chaos, discomfort and possible outcomes. And then, having the faith to walk that path, step by step.

And the more you think; the more you twist, turn and manipulate it. So, as abstruse as it sounds. You need to listen and trust your gut.

So often I was told to take that “Leap of faith.” But, I could not. And when it was right, I did take that big leap. BUT, we need to understand, that we do not control the consequences exclusively. It also depends on the circumstances, other people involved and how honest are we with ourselves and our actions.

Take that leap of faith, spread your wings, learn, fall and glide again! If you do not jump, your parachute will never open. You maybe safe, but you will never soar!!

Mind your wings

Thoughts on turning 30

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And I have turned Thirtyyy!!! Happy? Sad? Indifferent is more like it. Age is just a number right…

Honestly, I have been dreading the Big fat 30! It’s so old. I am an aunty…! But secretly, I enjoy being an aunt to my nieces and nephews. They make me love, laugh, play, pout and cherish the small things in life. 🙂 🙂

And my 5 year plan has gone awry. I’m not anywhere near it. On the other hand, life has given me better gifts! I love my offbeat work. I am a better version of myself. I am finally more open and non-judgemental (almost there). And, I try to live, one day at a time. 

Though I missed a couple of things in my 20s. There are so many things I look forward to in my 30s:

  • Continue globe-trotting
  • Fall in love and get married (It may be over rated, but still want to do it 😉 )
  • Learn and Teach different yoga styles
  • Attend music festivals
  • Dress up like a hippie and travel in luxury
  • Attend a rave party…? 
  • Sit in meditation for 60 minutes, without sleeping
  • Be a better version of my current self 
  • Finally, Have babies.. 

Laugh all you want, as its’ rare anyway! (my list is not rare; Laughter is). But again, life is full of surprises. And, I have learnt to be careful of what I wish for! 

There are times, we are so focused on our  plans, that we miss out on life! And, its’ only when we get a jolt, that we start cherishing the things we have. I am absolutely grateful for everything in life. We take so many things for granted. And its’ only when they are slipping or we lose them, that we realize their value.

So Dear 30s, I am already in love with you. We’ll make a great team and looking forward to doing more authentic things in life. 🙂 😉

Mind your wings

When Life becomes “A means to an end”

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There are so many things we read, learn or experience, but we’re unable to understand them fully. Then, when we keep hitting the hammer on the same spot.. BAMMMM, our head is hit with understanding that liberates the heart!!

We all talk about living in the present, cutting the past and shutting the future. But, are we even making an effort to do it?

In School-colleges, our efforts are concentrated on the graduation day. We need that excellent score and a few awards to decorate our resume. But, did we enjoy the whole process? Did we live each day as it is, or were we too bothered by, “I ll be ecstatic on that  day, when I score X and win Y..” And similarly, the routine contines with the perfect job, soulmate, dream home  so on and so forth.

Basically, we spend our today working incessantly for a future goal. Why is happiness always work-in-progress? Planning, having goals, is awesome. But, don’t let that stop you from living today. Today-This moment is all we have. Just make the best out of it! Be happy now! Life may throw challenges, unexpected twists; But we need to tune ourself that we can make the best out of every-living-day.

I think, we all know this. It’s just that one day it hits you so hard, that you see the need for detachment from the outcomes. You realize that making today beautiful is the only assurance you can make to your heart and soul. 

Today is not a “means” to an “end” in the future. Live now. Do what makes your heart sing today. Let’s make a better today . So simple, yet so difficult…

Mind your wings

 

Our tolerance for honesty…

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“Honesty is the best policy”

We are taught this from childhood. We would reiterate it anytime, anywhere. But how tolerant are we towards truth and honesty.

We live in times where are there is a lot of space for grey.  Besides, what is acceptable to one group of people, maybe intolerable to the others. But at the same time, there are people who condone dishonesty, but cannot bear the truth. And it’s true, some pay a dear price for honesty.

When a Godman’s veil is exposed, the whistleblowers are punished. When a woman stands for her truth and dignity, she is given malicious labels. When a man stands by the honest woman, his motives are questioned. Sometimes, this really makes me wonder, “Why are we becoming an intolerant society.”

Of Course, there is white lies. But I am talking about the malicious lies, i.e. false stories told with the intent of hurting someone or being exonerated for one’s misconduct.

There are times we all hide things, there are times we sugar coat them, there are times we disguise the lies. We all do it. Some more than the others. And, we all have perfect reasons to support the need for that lies. 

Let’s forget about national scandals/issues and talk about us. Isn’t it ironic, there are times when honesty wins you respect and there are times you are crucified for the same. There are big lies and small lies (btw, who decides the magnitude of the lie?), acceptable and unacceptable. 

Irrespective of all, Honesty and truth keeps the social and moral structure in place. It is necessary. Without this, there would be chaos in all our lives. So let’s keep teaching and following that honesty is the best policy. Along with this, let’s increase our tolerance towards honesty. 

“When you lie to someone, you rob them of their power to take a decision.”

Mind your wings

It’s the “Moments” that become your destiny!

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“The best things in life do not come in days, they are mere moments that leave us enchanted”

I set out on a journey travelling alone, all excited to learn. The first two-three days, nothing was happening. I was meeting new people, learning new things, but nothing that would be cherished. I was agitated.

But, it was only when I relaxed, that I realized:

  • It’s the small moments that teach us something new,
  • It’s those unexpected joys that become memories and
  • It’s  one story or one person that changes our perspective.

There is so much to explore. It is an incessant journey. But, don’t lose out on moments looking for “something big or grand”. It is the mere moments that can change our life. It is the smallest thing that can be the most extraordinary thing in our life. So wherever you go, live the moment and cherish it like there’s no tomorrow. You never know which moment is destined for your greater good!!

Mind your wings

 

It’s not your story to tell

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They say there are two sides to every story. Well, I think there are many sides to that “same story”. Besides the people who were involved, the bystanders have their own perspective, version. So every person emotes and relates to the same story in different ways, which is reflected in their storytelling.

Some stories reflect people’s struggles, lows, weaknesses, addictions and darkness. But, the vantage point must be the transformation, the courage, the determination; which is often lost when you mix the facts with emotions and judgements.

We all have been judged and we are still busy judging others (be it silently), then how can our stories be authentic, how can we represent a story character, why do we get to decide who is the villain, victim or hero.

We need to be brave to tell our story, kind to tell another person’s story and wise to refrain from telling some stories, as it’s not your story to tell!!

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly. —Theodore Roosevelt”

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I fall in love with you everyday!

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Hello everyone!!

Training as a professional in Yoga has been mind-blowing (in a good way). First of all, Yoga is so much more than exercise or a mode of toning up. Secondly, yoga is much more than the aesthetics, as social media is being flooded with fancy – glamorous photos. Finally, yoga is not limited to exercise or breathing. So what is yoga..?

Yoga is holistic. Yoga is a lifestyle. Yoga is a choice to live in awareness. It is a connection between you and your energy. Yoga is the modal which makes you fall in love with your body! Finally, it becomes a medium through which you can express yourself.

There are days when I feel battered emotionally, those are the days I need Yoga more. The days I miss my daily dose of exercise, I want to get back to my mat more. The experience is exhilarating. I fall in love with Yoga again and again and again. And as I teach a certain group of people, I just want them to feel a similar exhilaration and become healthy inside-out. Teaching has been phenomenal, I feel a certain stillness and that is reflected in the classes. Finally, I have a passion that gets me out of the bed on the coldest days or the sleepless nights, as I know everything gets better when I am on my mat!! 🙂 🙂 

Mind your wings

 

How do you know he’s the one??

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The slipper fit…

The frog turned into a prince…

The true love’s kiss woke her up…

And they lived happily ever after!!!

Wish it were as simple as fairy tales 🙂

In arranged marriage scenario, one fine day guy meets girl and probably meets a couple of more times. Then the two people are supposed to decide if they want to spend their lives together or not. No pressure. When meeting guys, I have always wondered how do I know he’s the guy for me ??? For years I have been asking this question to the people who want the best for me and have the purest intentions. The answers I get are:

Grandmother: Arrey!! What kind of question is this..? I did not even see or talk to your grandfather till we were married. Marriages are made in heaven… Just trust the lord.

Parents: Just make a list of pros and cons and weigh your options. You can live with a person forever and not know him; and sometimes one moment is enough. Besides, have faith in our choice. We want the best for you 🙂

Older married sister: Babe, it’s a leap of faith you need to take. You jump in the water and you’ll learn to swim.

Friends: Why couldn’t you just date and marry someone from college or work… Now that you’ve found no one. Just marry a decent person, the kind you can be comfortable with:)

Younger siblings: Just marry someone who’s your type!?! And start believing in Love at first sight, for your good 😉

These are helpful for sane-logical people. But what about a few insane people like me? Well, besides having faith in the lord and the well meaning people; Have faith in you. All I can tell you is, you’ll know when it’s right. Falling in love the first time you meet, is rare. But, if you connect to a person, go with the flow. In your heart you’ll know it is right. You maybe surprised that he’s not “Your type” but you both get along, like the house is on fire!! And if you live in confusion or chaos, then it’s time to explore more, inside out. 🙂

“Finally, ask yourself “Am I making the right decision;” Expect an answer and you will be guided!!”

P.S: Please feel free to share any tips and your experiences too!!

Mind your wings

 

Do you think everyone is doing the best they can?

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Hello everyone!!

I recently read “Rising Strong by Brene Brown.” It is a thought riveting book. And, she raised this question to everyone “Do you think everyone is doing the best they can?” This got me thinking, a lot! My first reaction was “No ways… a very few people are giving their best, most of the people on their worst behaviour. Look around, you’ll see too many people fighting, pulling down each other, neglecting their loved ones and being a bad version of themselves. It’s just too much stress and pressure.”

Since then, I’ve been trying to see the world through other people’s perspective. And, I ve been introspecting my own behaviour. So finally, I think that people are doing their best, as per their circumstances, experiences and resources. It’s just that some people have been scarred too often and they’ve either built walls around them or they are always ready with ammunition. But, we need to know that everyone has their own battles to fight, which sometimes results in collateral damage. Just like a vicious circle, there is a virtuous circle; Be kind to everyone you meet, give your best at any point of time and the seeds of kindness will blossom into a happy place for all of us!

But, I would love to know your thoughts…Do share them!

Mind your wings