We set our intent on giving up on a bad habit, toxic ways or toxic people. We give it our best shot, get the momentum going and then.. Bamm, we fall of the wagon.
Then, the wise thing is to be aware of the trigger that led us to indulge in old ways. Recognise it and set an alternate response to the trigger. Teach your mind, visualise it and it will be done!
For a long time, you’re happy about building nurturing new habits or having nourishing people around you. Then, some event/situation builds up and BAMMM…. Back to old defeating ways.
Building a new habit consists of unlearning and learning. It can be a complex process. But, all you need is consistency to keep getting up, every time you fall. Once you really see, that you need to change something in your life. You can do it! Real change takes a moment of understanding. And weeks, sometimes months of practicing.
In all your weak times, Remind yourself, why you started in the first place! And see the small tiny positive changes that have been produced; with the mere effort. So a little more, and you will be there!
Everyone has their own journey carved out. But, motivate your fellow-passengers. In-turn, be motivated to nourish your life with good habits, people and environment. If they can do it, you can do it too!! And the exhiliration you feel, is surreal. 🙂 🙂
When we start practicing meditation on a regular basis. Our awareness automatically increases. We are able to see our motives behind actions, our deepest fears, the mistakes we made; Basically, we are able to see our innermost selves. That is hidden from the world and often from ourselves too!
Thus, when meditating, we are taken aback. Sometimes, we don’t like what we see. But the other times, appreciate yourself for all the good work. Be grateful that you have turned out humane.
Meditation cannot be distorted or you cannot be partial. You will see the good, bad and ugly. BUT, the aim of meditation is not transformation. The result of meditation can be transforming. Overtime, we need to stop judging what we see. We just need to be aware and accepting! And as a result of our awareness, we raise our consciousness as people. Our perspective becomes wider and atleast we see our trueselves. That is often hidden in midst of our ego and chattering mind.
Irrespective of all, spend more time with you. As only when you see the most authentic you, can you help yourself. Orselse, you’ll keep moving in circles.
Meditate, not because you want to become a better person. Meditate, because you want the best of you to be reflected!!
There are so many things we read, learn or experience, but we’re unable to understand them fully. Then, when we keep hitting the hammer on the same spot.. BAMMMM, our head is hit with understanding that liberates the heart!!
We all talk about living in the present, cutting the past and shutting the future. But, are we even making an effort to do it?
In School-colleges, our efforts are concentrated on the graduation day. We need that excellent score and a few awards to decorate our resume. But, did we enjoy the whole process? Did we live each day as it is, or were we too bothered by, “I ll be ecstatic on that day, when I score X and win Y..” And similarly, the routine contines with the perfect job, soulmate, dream home so on and so forth.
Basically, we spend our today working incessantly for a future goal. Why is happiness always work-in-progress? Planning, having goals, is awesome. But, don’t let that stop you from living today. Today-This moment is all we have. Just make the best out of it! Be happy now! Life may throw challenges, unexpected twists; But we need to tune ourself that we can make the best out of every-living-day.
I think, we all know this. It’s just that one day it hits you so hard, that you see the need for detachment from the outcomes. You realize that making today beautiful is the only assurance you can make to your heart and soul.
Today is not a “means” to an “end” in the future. Live now. Do what makes your heart sing today. Let’s make a better today . So simple, yet so difficult…
Emotions are constantly changing, but don’t let it destroy your peace of mind! Easier said than done. There are so many times in life, our emotions muddy the clear waters. We could have dealt with a situation with calmness and clarity. But, the tempestuous emotions can either empower you or mislead you.
Emotions are the driving force behind our actions and reasoning. The way you feel is the way you describe a certain event or person. And so many times, when we need to see a situation clearly, but our involvement, our emotions play havoc with our reasoning. And, when we finally disconnect from the situation, we are able to see everything so clearly! It makes us wonder, why couldn’t we understand something so simple and evident…
That’s where “Detachment” comes into the picture. Detachment does not mean, we cease to care. It means we learn to love, live, care, while disconnecting from the results or consequences of the situation. Sometimes when our emotions overwhelm us, it’s time to take a break!
“A little thought and a little kindness is priceless!!”
Often in our lives, we have people who come into our lives and help us with unconditional concern or love. They are like guiding lights who show us the path, help us in letting go of the clutter or they merely accept us with all the flaws and the misdemeanours.
When people are lost, it’s’ easy to guide or misguide them. Criticism, judgement and losing faith in them can make them rebels and take them to a point of no return. On the other hand, patience, faith, understanding and a pinch of affection will not only guide them, but it also brings out their highest potential.
Remember, there is no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every drop creates a ripple effect.
I have been on the receiving end of kindness. And, today I am filled with gratitude. Those seeds of kindness were sowed and nurtured by numerous people. As a result, I try being the most loving and kind person. There have been people who have been my guiding light. Similarly, the best way I can express gratitude to them is by emulating them.
Finally, if you want more goodness, kindness in the world. PUT IT THERE!! Be the change you wish to see. 🙂
“Education is a process of Unlearning and learning.”
Similarly, Yoga is a process of unlearning and learning afresh. Thanks to our lifestyle and occupational hazards, we have acute stiffness, pains and bad postures. A lot of the new practitioners are taught how to stand right, sit with the spine straight and breathe deep. But, this proves to be more difficult than learning asanas due to the ingrained habits.
Part of the path of yoga is to learn to let go of the ego. The ego doesn’t like to be ordered around and it detests changes.
Yoga as a lifestyle
My journey had a lot of unlearning and letting go. There was too much effort in my postures and in my breathing. My breath was shallow and I was tensing up the shoulders and spine in every posture. Overtime with awareness, I learnt to relax the muscles and focus on a particular stretch or asana. There were a few instructions that I could not follow. But with time, practice and a lot of unlearning, I was gaining more composure in my yoga practice.
As per Patanjali’s Yoga sutras, ” Sthira Sukha Asana” , every practitioner should be steady and comfortable in a posture. On a physical level, an asana should be held comfortably for an extended period. And when we look inside, the key is to pay attention and respond to how you feel moment to moment, rather than imposing a structure from the outside.
Our fast-paced lives and the prevalence of stress-related illnesses, make it clear that we need to simplify and declutter our lives. So, let’s begin with our body and mind. Many a times we need to unlearn, to improve the quality of our life and living.
Let’s set our sankalp (resolution) to simplify our lifestyle and let go of everything that no longer nourishes our body-mind-life.