Thoughts on turning 30

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And I have turned Thirtyyy!!! Happy? Sad? Indifferent is more like it. Age is just a number right…

Honestly, I have been dreading the Big fat 30! It’s so old. I am an aunty…! But secretly, I enjoy being an aunt to my nieces and nephews. They make me love, laugh, play, pout and cherish the small things in life. 🙂 🙂

And my 5 year plan has gone awry. I’m not anywhere near it. On the other hand, life has given me better gifts! I love my offbeat work. I am a better version of myself. I am finally more open and non-judgemental (almost there). And, I try to live, one day at a time. 

Though I missed a couple of things in my 20s. There are so many things I look forward to in my 30s:

  • Continue globe-trotting
  • Fall in love and get married (It may be over rated, but still want to do it 😉 )
  • Learn and Teach different yoga styles
  • Attend music festivals
  • Dress up like a hippie and travel in luxury
  • Attend a rave party…? 
  • Sit in meditation for 60 minutes, without sleeping
  • Be a better version of my current self 
  • Finally, Have babies.. 

Laugh all you want, as its’ rare anyway! (my list is not rare; Laughter is). But again, life is full of surprises. And, I have learnt to be careful of what I wish for! 

There are times, we are so focused on our  plans, that we miss out on life! And, its’ only when we get a jolt, that we start cherishing the things we have. I am absolutely grateful for everything in life. We take so many things for granted. And its’ only when they are slipping or we lose them, that we realize their value.

So Dear 30s, I am already in love with you. We’ll make a great team and looking forward to doing more authentic things in life. 🙂 😉

Mind your wings

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Falling “In&out” of old patterns

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We set our intent on giving up on a bad habit, toxic ways or toxic people. We give it our best shot, get the momentum going and then.. Bamm, we fall of the wagon.

Then, the wise thing is to be aware of the trigger that led us to indulge in old ways. Recognise it and set an alternate response to the trigger. Teach your mind, visualise it and it will be done!

For a long time, you’re happy about building nurturing new habits or having nourishing people around you. Then, some event/situation builds up and BAMMM…. Back to old defeating ways. 

Building a new habit consists of unlearning and learning. It can be a complex process. But, all you need is consistency to keep getting up, every time you fall. Once you really see, that you need to change something in your life. You can do it! Real change takes a moment of understanding. And weeks, sometimes months of practicing.

In all your weak times, Remind yourself, why you started in the first place! And see the small tiny positive changes that have been produced; with the mere effort. So a little more, and you will be there!

Everyone has their own journey carved out. But, motivate your fellow-passengers. In-turn, be motivated to nourish your life with good habits, people and environment.  If they can do it, you can do it too!! And the exhiliration you feel, is surreal. 🙂 🙂

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“Sometimes, I don’t like what I see in the mirror.” And Meditation is a mirror

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When we start practicing meditation on a regular basis. Our awareness automatically increases. We are able to see our motives behind actions, our deepest fears, the mistakes we made; Basically, we are able to see our innermost selves. That is hidden from the world and often from ourselves too!

Thus, when meditating, we are taken aback. Sometimes, we don’t like what we see. But the other times, appreciate yourself for all the good work. Be grateful that you have turned out humane.

Meditation cannot be distorted or you cannot be partial. You will see the good, bad and ugly. BUT, the aim of meditation is not transformation. The result of meditation can be transforming. Overtime, we need to stop judging what we see. We just need to be aware and accepting! And as a result of our awareness, we raise our consciousness as people. Our perspective becomes wider and atleast we see our trueselves. That is often hidden in midst of our ego and chattering mind.

Irrespective of all, spend more time with you. As only when you see the most authentic you, can you help yourself. Orselse, you’ll keep moving in circles.

Meditate, not because you want to become a better person. Meditate, because you want the best of you to be reflected!!

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This Heart of mine has its’ own mind

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Shhhhhhhhh…. It’s illogical, it’s insane!

Well, try telling it to my heart

It has a mind of it’s own.

Just when, I think I have it figured out

The heart starts beating faster

And it starts manipulating the mind

Worse, it starts affecting my thoughts and action!

How do I be rational and mature?

When there is a dictator inside me.

Everytime, I ignore my heart, there is chaos in my life

Sometimes, when I listen to it, it’s an absolute bliss!

The other times, Oh Lord, it is a complete miss…

Then, how do I fuction? how do I take decisions?

Do I hear balance? Well try telling that to the mind or the heart

They refuse to co-operate only at crucial times.

Overtime, I have learnt to sleep over what my heart tells

I have also learnt to weigh the consequences of the actions

If I can take the responsibility of the decision, without causing lateral damage 

And without hurting someone beyond repair

Then, I just do it!!

And to the spectators, naysayers, gossipmongers,

Please excuse my heart, As it has a mind of its own

Mind your wings

 

 

It’s OK to make wrong decisions

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It’s ok to make wrong decisions. As the fear of making wrong choices, often freezes us and it leaves us stagnant in life. Action is always better than inaction.

Whenever making a decision, weigh the pros and cons. Sleep over it. Think of the consequences and always remember that “Every action-choice-decision, has a ripple effect in your life and the environment you live in.” So be careful, but don’t be scared!!

There are times, we make wrong choices. We invest in a wrong career, fall in love with the wrong person, make small mistakes that change the route of our lives. It’s not the end of your story. Be strong, face the consequences of your decisions and make amends. Not for the world, but for yourself and the people who were affected by the decisions.

We need to learn to take decisions from a young age. From small things, like what we want to eat, what hobby class do we enroll in, how do we want to spend the savings to what we want to do in holidays. When we start taking decisions, our brains are wired to think and make choices. This will help us, at the pedestal when we need to important decisions. Start early and enjoy the ripple effect….

Mind your wings

Unconditional love

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It’s rare, elusive and sparse!

Think of the people, you love the MOST

Can you love and accept them, if their flaws are magnified

Would you travel the world, to spend one day with them

Would you stick to them, when the world ostracizes them

Can you love them the same, when they doubt your love

Can you love them the same, when they leave your nest

Maybe you can. Maybe you can’t

BUT

When you find someone who loves you unconditionally

It changes you, forever

It heals your deepest wounds

It brings out the best in you

It is the best metamorphosis that can happen to you!

It’s a bliss, if another person loves you unconditionally

And magical, if you can offer it to you ;

And everyone around you.

Mind your wings

 

When Life becomes “A means to an end”

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There are so many things we read, learn or experience, but we’re unable to understand them fully. Then, when we keep hitting the hammer on the same spot.. BAMMMM, our head is hit with understanding that liberates the heart!!

We all talk about living in the present, cutting the past and shutting the future. But, are we even making an effort to do it?

In School-colleges, our efforts are concentrated on the graduation day. We need that excellent score and a few awards to decorate our resume. But, did we enjoy the whole process? Did we live each day as it is, or were we too bothered by, “I ll be ecstatic on that  day, when I score X and win Y..” And similarly, the routine contines with the perfect job, soulmate, dream home  so on and so forth.

Basically, we spend our today working incessantly for a future goal. Why is happiness always work-in-progress? Planning, having goals, is awesome. But, don’t let that stop you from living today. Today-This moment is all we have. Just make the best out of it! Be happy now! Life may throw challenges, unexpected twists; But we need to tune ourself that we can make the best out of every-living-day.

I think, we all know this. It’s just that one day it hits you so hard, that you see the need for detachment from the outcomes. You realize that making today beautiful is the only assurance you can make to your heart and soul. 

Today is not a “means” to an “end” in the future. Live now. Do what makes your heart sing today. Let’s make a better today . So simple, yet so difficult…

Mind your wings