When emotions dissolve your clarity

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Emotions are constantly changing, but don’t let it destroy your peace of mind! Easier said than done. There are so many times in life, our emotions muddy the clear waters. We could have dealt with a situation with calmness and clarity. But, the tempestuous emotions can either empower you or mislead you.

Emotions are the driving force behind our actions and reasoning. The way you feel is the way you describe a certain event or person. And so many times, when we need to see a situation clearly, but our involvement, our emotions play havoc with our reasoning. And, when we finally disconnect from the situation, we are able to see everything so clearly! It makes us wonder, why couldn’t we understand something so simple and evident…

That’s where “Detachment” comes into the picture. Detachment does not mean, we cease to care. It means we learn to love, live, care, while disconnecting from the results or consequences of the situation.  Sometimes when our emotions overwhelm us, it’s time to take a break!

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When failures inspire you..

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The first time I failed, I was disappointed

The next time, it was heart-wrenching

When it happened again, I lost faith in  everything….

But, it’s upto us, to get back on our feet.

I am up and more alive than ever!!

Failures… I don’t know them.

What happened was a lesson and it kick started my transition.

Today I’m careful, but not scared

I give my best and then leave it in the hands of that omnipotent power

The past failures have made me more judicious and compassionate

Some may still doubt me, but I’ve never been more clear.

Neither am I reckless, nor am I a prude.

Finally, I see the importance of balance in life.. 🙂 

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Our tolerance for honesty…

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“Honesty is the best policy”

We are taught this from childhood. We would reiterate it anytime, anywhere. But how tolerant are we towards truth and honesty.

We live in times where are there is a lot of space for grey.  Besides, what is acceptable to one group of people, maybe intolerable to the others. But at the same time, there are people who condone dishonesty, but cannot bear the truth. And it’s true, some pay a dear price for honesty.

When a Godman’s veil is exposed, the whistleblowers are punished. When a woman stands for her truth and dignity, she is given malicious labels. When a man stands by the honest woman, his motives are questioned. Sometimes, this really makes me wonder, “Why are we becoming an intolerant society.”

Of Course, there is white lies. But I am talking about the malicious lies, i.e. false stories told with the intent of hurting someone or being exonerated for one’s misconduct.

There are times we all hide things, there are times we sugar coat them, there are times we disguise the lies. We all do it. Some more than the others. And, we all have perfect reasons to support the need for that lies. 

Let’s forget about national scandals/issues and talk about us. Isn’t it ironic, there are times when honesty wins you respect and there are times you are crucified for the same. There are big lies and small lies (btw, who decides the magnitude of the lie?), acceptable and unacceptable. 

Irrespective of all, Honesty and truth keeps the social and moral structure in place. It is necessary. Without this, there would be chaos in all our lives. So let’s keep teaching and following that honesty is the best policy. Along with this, let’s increase our tolerance towards honesty. 

“When you lie to someone, you rob them of their power to take a decision.”

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When you are Crashing….

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I absolutely love Anthony Robbin’s metaphor of the crashing car. When driving a race car, your focus is immaculate. One moment of distraction and THUD! Whereas sometimes your car skids and you are at a choice point. You either look towards the wall, where you might crash or you focus on the direction where you want to go. 

Similarly, in life we always need to focus on where we want to go instead of what we fear. But, often we are so focused on the problem that we forget to look for the solution instead. And there are times, when we are looking at the solution, but we are unable to comprehend it. In this case, look around, turn it upside down, twist and turn, change your perception and WHOOSH, the solution hits you like a fresh gust of wind. 

Focus and work towards your goal. On the other hand, be flexible with the ways that you can reach your goal. And, when you are skidding; look at where you want to be and there is a greater possibility you’ll be one step closer to your goal. But, without any groundwork the race car goes crashing. Similarly, when you set a goal but lose your focus, you might get lost. Whereas focus gives you clarity and speeds your success.

A mind out of control will play games with you. On the other hand, when you train your mind to FOCUS-DECLUTTER, it is the greatest bane of your life. Finally, what you focus on becomes your reality. 

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One act of “Kindness” has the power to change lives!!!

“A little thought and a little kindness is priceless!!”

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Often in our lives, we have people who come into our lives and help us with unconditional concern or love. They are like guiding lights who show us the path, help us in letting go of the clutter or they merely accept us with all the flaws and the misdemeanours.

When people are lost, it’s’ easy to guide or misguide them. Criticism, judgement and losing faith in them can make them rebels and take them to a point of no return. On the other hand, patience, faith, understanding and a pinch of affection will not only guide them, but it also brings out their highest potential.

Remember, there is no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every drop creates a ripple effect. 

I have been on the receiving end of kindness. And, today I am filled with gratitude. Those seeds of kindness were sowed and nurtured by numerous people. As a result, I try being the most loving and kind person. There have been people who have been my guiding light. Similarly, the best way I can express gratitude to them is by emulating them. 

Finally, if you want more goodness, kindness in the world. PUT IT THERE!! Be the change you wish to see. 🙂

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Unlearning through Yoga

“Education is a process of Unlearning and learning.”

Similarly, Yoga is a process of unlearning and learning afresh. Thanks to our lifestyle and occupational hazards, we have acute stiffness, pains and bad postures. A lot of the new practitioners are taught how to stand right, sit with the spine straight and breathe deep. But, this proves to be more difficult than learning asanas due to the ingrained habits.

Part of the path of yoga is to learn to let go of the ego. The ego doesn’t like to be ordered around and it detests changes.

Yoga as a lifestyle

My journey had a lot of unlearning and letting go. There was too much effort in my postures and in my breathing. My breath was shallow and I was tensing up the shoulders and spine in every posture. Overtime with awareness, I learnt to relax the muscles and focus on a particular stretch or asana. There were a few instructions that I could not follow. But with time, practice and a lot of unlearning, I was gaining more composure in my yoga practice.

As per Patanjali’s Yoga sutras, ” Sthira Sukha Asana” , every practitioner should be steady and comfortable in a posture. On a physical level, an asana should be held comfortably for an extended period. And when we look inside, the key is to pay attention and respond to how you feel moment to moment, rather than imposing a structure from the outside.

Our fast-paced lives and the prevalence of stress-related illnesses, make it clear that we need to simplify and declutter our  lives. So, let’s begin with our body and mind. Many a times we need to unlearn, to improve the quality of our life and living.

Let’s set our sankalp (resolution) to simplify our lifestyle and let go of everything that no longer nourishes our body-mind-life.

Faith in hard times!

Faith is like Wifi, we cannot see it or feel it

But, it has the power to connect us to what we need 🙂

Faith, is so easy when things are working out our way. But, in dark times it’s so easy to slip, it’s so easy to doubt and lose the momentum we have set forth.

There will always be naysayers, fearmongers, non-believers. And if you are the first of them then, your faith may easily get lost. Sometimes your commitment/faith is tested in the form of challenges and failures. But, remember keep your eyes on the prize and you will always find a way.

And when you cannot see the prize or your goal seems hazy, refocus. Set your intent to find a solution. All we need is a speck of hope. Don’t quit when you cannot find any hope, have faith in your hard work. Just because you cannot see the path, does not mean there is no path. You just need to have faith, that you are being prepared for the grand prize. You need to know, more nurturing must be done.

Finally feed your faith and let your fears, doubt starve. Keep scintillating 🙂

Mind your wings